What is dharma? And how can it be different for different people?

Photograph by Arti Agarwal
Photograph by Arti Agarwal

I encounter this question often. “What is dharma?”

The immediately next question people ask, is, “How can dharma change from one person to another? And from one situation to another?”

Dharma is taking a decision or an action, in alignment with the laws  of the cosmos. In simple words, dharma is taking any action or decision from a space of completion & with an intention of enriching someone.

When we say “Brahmanyam Bahuputratam”, we mean, “I am the favourite inheritor of the cosmos”. It means, “I am the source of everything.” This applies to each and every human being, whether they have realized it yet or not.

Hence, to simplify it even further, the dharma of every human being is to take responsibility for any and every situation that is bothering them or that needs reform. Any decision that comes from that sense of responsibility will be in alignment with dharma.

Why is dharma different for different people?

In the same situation, the dharma in spirit will be the same for each person – to take responsibility for the situation. But, the methods chosen to shoulder that responsibility can be different according to each person. Different people may be using different methods to achieve the same thing.

For example, the dharma of a kshatriya (warrior) and a brahmana (sage) is the same. To take responsibility for the humanity. But their methods will be different. That is called svadharma. A kshtriya will carry out his svadharma by protecting the land and its people. A brahmana will carry out his svadharma by studying scriptures, giving the right counsel to the rulers, teaching young minds, performing rites and rituals for the betterment of the land & its people. The actions and methods of both are different, the spirit is the same.

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Don’t Quit Smoking. Let smoking Quit YOU.

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Today, I want to share a very personal but profound thing, which all smokers might find useful.

Till 2 yrs and 9 months ago, I was a smoker. I started smoking in 2007 and continued to do so till 2010. It started as a “casual curiosity” and then when I hit a major depression in 2010, I became an addict.

On 4th January, 2011, I lit my last cigarette, and put it out in the middle. I never touched a cigarette every again. I never even felt the need to smoke ever ever again. As of today, even the smell of cigarette smoke makes me feel like puking. (And I never lie)

How did this change happen?

I never tried to “quit smoking”. Never ever. I just sincerely did only one thing: I always brought awareness into my smoking, that is all. This is the advice I had heard my Guru Sri Nithyananda Swami give to someone on what he should do to quit smoking in one of his youtube discourses. He told the person not to struggle to quit, but just be aware, that’s all. I tried that.

Every time I lit a cigarette, I used to be aware of whether I’m really smoking because I want to, or it is bcz I am just restless & bored or is it out of anger or what. Reasons were different many times, but I never gave up my awareness of the reasons. Slowly, after a few months, I saw that I was smoking not bcz I really really wanted to smoke, but for some other stupid reason and sometimes for no reason at all! Slowly, I automatically started to smoke lesser and lesser, and stopped smoking when I wasn’t really feeling like it. And then finally, on the 4th of Jan, I lit a smoke, and suddenly I felt, “What the crap am I doing? I don’t need this poison. I am done with it.”

And I was really really really done with it.
I hope someone finds this useful. It really works, all you need is a little honesty with your own self and a little patience.

Shared this ONLY with the purpose of hoping to benefit someone somewhere. Most people feel ashamed to share abt these habits, even when they are healed of it, but I know, that I have nothing to lose, only to gain if someone gets enriched by this some day.

Why do we need a Guru?

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“Why do we need a Guru?” 

That is almost the same as asking “Why do we need teachers/education?” Because no one has ever paid attention to teaching us about life and our own mind, we need a Guru. Just like we need someone to teach us History, Geography, Science, Maths etc, we need someone to teach us about LIFE – emotions, reactions, anger, jealousy, ego, dissatisfaction, mind, conflicts and how to deal with all these.

Yes, it is true, that we have all the answers within our own selves. I have no doubts about it. But, it is like having a bank account or Debit card, whose password/PIN you don’t know! What will you do with such a bank account? It may be having diamonds, but you don’t know how to access it! The Guru is the key, the password, the PIN to all the answers locked inside you.

That is why you need a Guru. He shows you the best of you, and makes you live it.